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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You all can speculate and analyze all you want but trust me when I say your in laws, especially your MILs, dislike you as much or more than you them.[/quote]

Of course, this is the very reason I have issues with her.  When I got married I didn't have any issue toward her, I rarely thought about her.  She made it quite clear how much she disliked me from the start of our marriage and then the issue becomes that you are stuck with her.  Unlike other people in your life that you can walk away from, your in-laws you can't because of your husband.  They will be in your life to a certain extent and will be around at important times such as holidays or family celebrations.

Think about every family celebration being dampened because your MIL makes rude and unpleasant comments to you about your appearance.  Do you snark back at her and be rude to her on her level or do you act mature and ignore and try to keep the peace for the sake of the family celebration only to simply despise her even more later that you even have to think about this. If you tell her simply that what she said isn't kind, she waits until the following day and goes crying to your husband about what you said and its just drama, is it worth it?  If your husband has heard it all before and ignores her then you have to deal with her passive aggressiveness next time you see her where she ignores you. Can't she control herself, isn't she at her age mature enough to know that putting people down is not nice, is not playing nice and not creating a nice environment.  So it gets too hard and you simply give up, stop caring, stop trying, move away and see her every so often and when she makes those comments you have so little care factor they no longer sting because you simply look at her and see what she is - a complete nut job, who goes through life thinking you can criticise and mock other people and then expect they will like you and do anything nice for you.  OMG its crazy to think treating people poorly will result in anything other than being treated poorly or avoided in return.  However it is then that a MIL cries about poor her, look at her terrible DIL ruining her family.

Its so predictable.[/quote]

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