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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The suggestion that in 2021, you need a sahw to fully allow a man to fully succeed in his career.... ? What world do you ladies live in?  Is this what you tell yourselves to justify your set ups?

I'm a partner in big law. Yes, twenty years ago the male partners all had sahws.  Not any more.  I look around my immediate team, and the partners' wives are: counsel for a major corporation (probably making $400k), counsel for a smaller company (makes $240k), special needs therapist, medical research doctor running a fancy national research program, G15 type job at state department, trophy wife and trophy wife.  The two trophy wife guys are both in their 60s and close to retirement.  Everyone else is 40s and 50s.  These guys work a ton, but are all involved in their kids and outsource appropriately at home.  Having someone at home folding their underwear is not remotely a necessity for their professional success.  No matter what you tell yourself.

I'm sure posters will respond and say that we don't all make high salaries like that. But the whole point of your argument is that your staying home supports your husband's career trajectory. So I assume he's making at least $300k. Most men making that kind of income statistically are married to women with equal income potential.  You ladies just opted out.

Men making $200k a year rarely have sahws in hcol areas like dc.    Most families all across america have two working parents. No one needs a sahw.

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You are living in a world most of us don't live in.  Most people don't have a big law partner husband making a million a year or a spouse making over $200K a year.  You can afford a housekeeper, nannies, a driver and aide's and what ever else you need.

If a wife makes less than it would cost for child care, it makes no sense to put your kids in child care and end up owning more money than you make.

And, some of our husband's want us happy.  Not everyone enjoys working.  So, why should both be miserable?  [/quote]

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