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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's the thing: the things that a stay at home parent does is undervalued.  Think of it this way: what would it cost to pay someone to:
1.  Keep your house tidy and clean daily; 
2. Manage all doctors appointments and take your children to those appointments
3.  Pick up your children from school 
4. Make sure homework is done, and provide tutoring to your children (tutors cost at least $100/hour, often more in the DMV)
5. Do all of the grocery shopping
6. Do your laundry and take clothes to the cleaners
7.  Pick up all family members Rx and run errands
8. Plan and cook meals
9. Stay home with your kids when they are sick or pick them up early if the school nurse calls
 
I quit a good paying job about five years ago at the urging of my husband.  When I was working, we were constantly negotiating who would take the kids to the doctor, pick them up from school.  We made this decision to have less stress in our family life.  Not only did it make our lives less stressful, we also did this because our kids were struggling with anxiety and depression.  I've not been eating bonbons.  It's been grueling and not easy to shift into this role, but it has been really important for our children's mental health.

At this point, as I'm pushing 50, I'm not a great candidate in the workforce. It saddens me to see the callous comments in this thread about women who make this sacrifice for their family.  Ultimately, it is a benefit to society if a parent can afford to stay home with children who are depressed, etc. I realize not everyone has this luxury - it is no doubt holding us back financially, but being there for kids with special needs in particular is something society should not be shaming.

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I have always done all of that and I also WAH full-time bringing in $175k.[/quote]

Are your children special needs?[/quote]

NP. I make a lot more than $175 and have a kid on the spectrum, and i do all this.  It's fine in normal times, and remote working has made it easy.  [/quote]

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