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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I appreciate the advice. Disappointed that he doesn't want to work on our marriage since I feel the majority of the tension comes from having a child with health issues and my own health. He likely spoke with the counselor without me since he found her and booked her and got her to side with him. I just feel betrayed and tricked into counseling when his agenda was to leave.[b] Now he is saying that he is leaving (or kicking me out) because a trained professional told us to separate[/b]. The counselor doesn't even know about the health issues, we never got there. We're okay financially but that won't last with double the expenses. [b]He paid for the mortgage but I paid for everything else including all food, groceries and kid activities, but somehow now its not my house.[/b] [/quote]

#1 - lawyer NOW. Seriously. He can't sell the marital home and not buy you out of the marital portion of it. I don't know what the marital portion of it is - I'm not a lawyer, don't practice family law, and have never been divorced (but I have been through a custody battle with an abusive ex).

#2 - he's abusive. You're better off without him, but he'll do everything he can to come out on top. Get a lawyer, and all communication for a while needs to go through the lawyer.

I know it seems like the counselor is "siding with him" - she's not. He's leaving the marriage and using her as his excuse. You don't get to make him work on it. Also, he's a terrible partner so you don't want him anyway. Life will be better on the other side.

Find a therapist just for you. It will be really important to keep your mental health in check.

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