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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should check out the subreddit "QAnon Casualties". The vaccine and other issues of the past few years have destroyed many a marriage. [/quote]
Thanks for the suggestion. It's horrifying but also makes me feel less alone. I've also heard side comments from therapists I reached out to about couples counseling that a lot of people are in similar shoes... [b]unfortunately I don't know if anyone's figured out how to deal in a productive way...[/b][/quote][/quote]

Dang - I messed up the quotes the first time. Here's my post:

Let me know if you find out. My husband is allllmost the same, except not anti-vaxx. That would have likely been the final straw since my kids are teens/tweens and know about and want the vaccine.

And it's really been the last 5 years. Prior to that we might have disagreed on some policy issues, but now it's way beyond that. Divorce is on my mind very often. What has worked is him living elsewhere for work and for me really working to accept that a) we are on opposite sides of almost every political or social issue, b) that I don't understand it or how he has gotten there, and c) discussion is futile and refuse to engage. I don't know how long-term sustainable it is, but it's working for now.

How old are your kids and do they want to be vaccinated? If they do, then I think I'd insist that he have a discussion with the pediatrician.[/quote]

Op here. Wish we could start a secret support group. This is very much me as well. My oldest is a teen and could get vaccinated but doesn't want to and parrots her father. I was very disappointed to end up in a fight with her about this and talking to the pediatrician sparked it. Yet no matter how much I dwell on what I should do and how much the impulsive tired side of me would like a divorce...I keep coming back to believing it would be better if I could figure out a way to make this work, and needing to push through. It is maddening and tiring and frustrating. But I can't bring myself to split time with the kids.[/quote]

I'm sorry. PP here - after posting the above I was completely blindsided today when my spouse told me/questioned me today when our 11 year old got their first shot. It's funny/not funny in that I was the one when our kids were infants wondering if we should spread out shots and he thought I had bought into conspiracy theories.

I'm just not engaging right now and hoping it will blow over.[/quote]

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