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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh man I am so different from people here. The thought of my husband making out with somebody else makes me angry, but the thought of him doing that and carrying on with me as if everything was normal makes me absolutely disgusted. I cannot imagine not wanting to know.

And my husband did something terrible and confessed and it pissed me off, but I would much prefer that to the thought of him doing something wrong and keeping it a secret. So this isn’t a shot in the dark.  [/quote]

Yes, I agree to an extent. Several years ago, my DH confessed to me right after he had engaged in a boundary crossing text exchange with an old friend from high school (pretty close to sexting). I was very angry and expressed that and discussed future limits/repercussions and then I took our son on a nice long expensive weekend without DH . I was  very glad he told me though as I would not want to have that going on behind my back. However, I think I would feel differently about my DH disclosing a long ago transgression - we have been married 30 plus years - just to relieve himself of the guilt - I would be angry and hurt and resentful that he waited to tell me.

For OP's situation - man, I am sorry. Pregnant with small kids? I guess it is good he  told you, but I would be clear that this was not "forgive and forget" just because he told - I would say counseling would be appropriate, or hell, at least get some good jewelry or alone time, etc. [/quote]

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