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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's very bizarre that so many posters here seem to think it reasonable to demand that 20+ people travel 5 hours for a 1 hour event hosted by someone they presumably don't even know (OP's best friend) instead of OP and her DH being the ones to go celebrate the birth of a new child into their extended family in the place where most members of one side of that family live. I moved 13 hours away from my family and DH's family is all in Europe and you bet we usually do the traveling - yes, even when our baby came - because it just makes the most sense and it's important to us to build and maintain those relationships.

OP, you say it's important to you, too, to maintain a good relationship with your DH's family, which is great. I think you're getting a lot of bad advice on this thread from people urging you to focus on how inconvenient this would be to you and encouraging you to think about yourself as the center of the universe that everyone in your DH's family is somehow out to bully (I don't think YOU really think this, but for plenty of DCUM posters that's their primary lens of looking at the world).

I had a miserable pregnancy and felt sick and bloated pretty much the whole time so I sympathize with you being reluctant, OP, especially if you don't like to drive already. But it's worth considering whether the good outweighs the bad in this situation for you and yours. If you really don't feel up to it, maybe you could suggest you'll go up after the baby is born for a celebration instead? (Despite what some of these people would have you believe, it is not hard to travel with an infant. It's when they start to crawl that it gets tough!)[/quote]

Most people don't have 20+ close relatives all in one place. It's probably the DH's parents and then a bunch of random distant relatives and friends that he wouldn't bother driving 10 hours to see himself for a weekend.[/quote]

I've dated a fair amount of men from NY. If he's Irish or Italian is a HUGE family and they will all attend. So big, I would not want them coming to a shower my friends are throwing. They could fill their own event plus some.[/quote]

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