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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s pretty interesting how the people saying they wouldn’t allow this are basing that answer on their belief that the teens are not mature enough to understand the consequences/might change their minds/might be triggering.

If you are among those saying you would not allow this, please spell out exactly how you would explain that answer to the teens in question, specifically the one with the terminal illness. It’s pretty easy to say, “I’d never allow this” but I suspect many of y’all would be a lot less strident in the face of the actual situation being described.

And to the people who are saying that a small tattoo with dates is “disfigurement” I wonder if you are always so hyperbolic. Also that you and your kids don’t have pierced ears. [/quote]
I would say no to the tattoo and offer something else.  And my answer would be 15 is to young to make a permanent body modification. At 18 they will be free to get the tattoo if they still want it but chances are they will not. 
At 15 your friends are the center of your world, at 35 not so much.  A few you might hold on to but that's not always the case. What is meaningful today as a teen, loses it's meaning as life goes on.  [/quote][/quote]

So you wouldn’t let your daughter get her ears pierced before the age of 18?  That’s permanent body modification too, and more visible than a discreet tattoo.[/quote]

NP - I consider piercings to be a completely different animal from tattoos.  Piercings can be taken out and holes close. I know; I got several in college.  When I changed my mind, I took them all out and it was like they were never there.  I'm 40 now, and I thank goodness I didn't get tattoos instead.  Much harder to remove.[/quote]

So you don’t actually oppose all body modification.  BTW, not all piercings close up when you stop wearing jewelry, and even if they do, they can leave permanent scars.[/quote]

I simply oppose getting a tattoo in the scenario that OP describes for a variety of reasons.  I never commented on other "body modifications."  I don't think the piercing comparison is accurate in this situation, nor does it matter. [/quote]

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