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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. His response to this is, "ok so if the kids get a bad reaction to the vaccine then would it be your fault?" And then goes on his tirade of all the evidence that the vaccines are doing more harm than good. Obviously evidence I find questionable. But he finds evidence of covids effects questionable. This is an impossible argument to have.

And to the other pp who asked...yes it's not just covid. It's stop the steal, blm, LGBTQ, every hot controversial issue you can think of. We're on opposite ends. It's starting to extend to other vaccines too now.

What stops me from leaving is the kids. Will it be easier for me to leave yes. Will it be easier for them or easier for co-parenting? I don't see how. [/quote]

[b]Both of you need to delete all social media for 3 months: no facebook, instagram, TikTok, Reddit, DCUM, message boards, etc. No podcasts. No cable news.

Both you go on a complete social media break. If you want news, order print editions of the Washington Post and Wall Street Journal. Only listen to NPR in the mornings when it's just straight news.

If you do this, I bet both of you will be in a better place in three months. After 3 months, reassess the vaccine for your kids. [/b]

Unfortunately, I doubt he will stick with his side of the bargain. Because he's that addicted to social media and the outrage it stimulates in his brain. He's addicted to the dopamine rush. [/quote]

NP here.  I think the above is good advice.  I definitely noticed a difference in my emotional well being when I stayed off the divisive social media outlets and consumed limited print media for my news.

As for being on opposite sides of everything, you will have to decide if/when love isn’t enough.   I’m an old movie buff, and the Barbara Streisand/Robert Redford movie “The Way We Were” - I feel like it is different shades of the issues today.  In real life, my parents divorced when I was in high school and a big part was because they didn’t want the same things in life when it came to religion, family, even where to live.

To make things work, you both have to be all in on trying to save the marriage and if reducing some of the media consumption (and perhaps manipulation) can get you both to a place where you were years ago as that team facing the world together, there might be a chance.[/quote]

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