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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess if everyone unanimously agrees that I'm being overbearing and not respecting my son and his wife that I just got to accept that I won't hear from my son for 2 weeks. Maybe I'll plan an outing with some girlfriends one evening. I do work but it's part time. I am married but my husband works a ton so we aren't around each other much. Maybe he can take some time off and we can do something like day trips or even an overnight trip ourselves.

I just wish it was my son who relayed the message to me and not my DIL.[/quote]

[b]Why would you prefer the message came from your son?  How would that make it easier to hear?[/b][/quote]

My guess is she feels more comfortable railroading her son and getting him to agree to what she wants. I bet this request from her DIL caught her off guard (which is precisely why they did it this way…) [/quote]

Taking the OP where she is, which is talking to her son everyday, apparently forever, yes I can see how it would be jarring and even upsetting to go two weeks.  Is it an odd situation to begin with?  Yes, but apparently it has been acceptable/working for her and her son for this long.  Does she need to accept it?  Of course.  But is she wrong to be hurt/worried about it?  Of course not.

And I'm surprised at all of the people saying she shouldn't talk directly to her son about it.  So often, I see posters asserting that the DH should be the only one that interacts with the inlaws.  "Tell your DH to tell her...."  "Your DH needs to enforce your boundary for you..."  etc.[/quote]

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