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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP sounds like a real peach [/quote]

seriously.  she busy taking care of errands all day that working moms have to squeeze into nights and weekends, and complains she is SO BUSY having all dang day to do them at her leisure.  OMG stop OP.  [/quote]

You sound bitter.[/quote]

No, just stating the obvious.  How dumb her post was.  Not surprising she is not earning any income.  Probably not too bright[/quote]

I don't think she is, but what if she was? What if OP is just not as smart as you? Does that make her worthy of your scorn? Does that mean she's not as busy as she says? It seems like if OP is really intellectually deficient, she would deserve empathy and kindness, not cruelty. Whenever I encounter people who seem less intelligent than I am, I tend to feel bad for them because I know my intelligence makes my life easier.

So, again: you sound bitter.[/quote]
NP. OP invited this on herself with her holier-than-thou attitude. Why are you being so defensive?[/quote]

I don't feel defensive at all. I've been a SAHM and am now a working mom. I think they are both hard. I didn't find OP's post remotely condescending and actually related to much of what she said. I think people do tend to devalue SAHM's time and one reason I know that is that I have done both and noticed that people are much more deferential towards the time I spend working (even when I spend plenty of time doing stuff like posting on DCUM) than they were to the time I spent as a primary caregiver for young kids.

I think people only perceive OP as condescending because of their own feelings about motherhood and work. All she's saying is that she resents when people don't respect her time at least as much as they would respect the time of a nanny doing the exact same thing. That's a reasonable, not condescending, complaint to me.[/quote]

She is NOT a nanny.  A nanny gets paid 50,000 or less to spend long work days in their boss's home getting paid to work a J-O-B.  A nanny isn't at home with her kids.  In fact, the nanny might have childcare arrangements for her own kids.  She doesn't have the luxury of trying to do lots of activities during the day with her kids.

This is so, so out of touch, I can't even!!  No OP, don't try to martyr yourself as if you are a nanny.  You arent!![/quote]

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