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This happened to us today.  DD is 7 and one of the youngest on her team.  The coach says she does great but another parent today kept yelling criticisms about my daughter’s dribbling and aim.

Is this considered acceptable?  
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I coach a different sport for 10 year-olds. At the first parent meeting I lay down the law: I will not tolerate coaching from the sidelines and badmouthing any player (on our team or our opponents) . Do it once, your kid is going to sit. Do it twice, your kid is off the team.  I will NOT have it.  They are also directed to follow a 24-hour rule with any concerns with me (as in, you can raise issues 24 hours after a game, but never immediately after). And I urge them to NOT discuss games on the ride home. We also do not, as a team, have post-game meetings. Rather, we talk about the competitions at the beginning of our next practice.

I've only had to kick a kid off a team one time for this in 8 years. I think I have a reputation for having very clear boundaries, so the kids who come to me, the parents already know what to expect and are on board with it.

This is youth sports. It's supposed to be developmental. They are going to make mistakes. We will address them in practice. But I will not criticize, denigrate or yell corrections during a game (which is different than quietly making an adjustment one-on-one on the sidelines). The kids should hear the coaches and only the coaches talking to them -- not the parents. If you can't keep your mouth shut, you can take your kid to another team. At least I can protect them from your insanity.

Works for me. I don't lose much.

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Yes. It is developmental so the games are learning environments with teachable moments often that don't occur in practices.  So if the coach is engaged during the game and is actually coaching/teaching my kid, then there is no need for me to shout instructions.  However, if the coach is just sitting on the sideline collecting a paycheck, then I'll coach from the sideline and won't have my kid on the team very long. [/quote]

There is a big difference.  I was discussing situations where you know your kid is not paying attention. Picking daisys so you speak.  So - you yell something out to wake them up.  If your kid is not “asleep”, then you need the shut up during the course of play.  One of the big things learned in the C and  B license program is to let the players play on the field.  You note coaching points to bring up in practice and you can talk to players on the bench about what is going on, but the games are for the players to try and work on what they have been learning and working on in practice.  The team could be working on triangle formations and tight touch passing for the last 4 weeks and you yelling to your kid can easily screw that all up.  So - don’t.

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