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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same for my daughter, OP. And yes, she does care. Weekends are long for her. For most people, it’s terribly lonely being alone. I’m surprised how many people are dismissing the importance of company and friendship. [/quote]

I don't think we're dismissing it.  It's just that I really feel like most kids are not hanging out these weekends.  I know a lot of previously very social kids who don't have all sorts of weekend plans.  [/quote]

Where would they be hanging out and what would they be doing? These kids aren’t even old enough to drive yet? [/quote]

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with OP's son (the world is vast and full of people with different preferences) but I'm confused by how shocked you are by the idea of teens hanging out on the weekend. They'd hang out on porches, or in backyards. My teen kicks a soccer ball back and forth with her friends and talks, or bikes to the park and talks, or walks to the bakery and talks. Where do you live that you can't imagine kids just....hanging out together? [/quote]

Do you even have a teen? This sounds like something people who grew up in the 90’s or 80’s did.[/quote]

+1. Like a John Hughes movie fantasy of teen social life.[/quote]

I'm the PP above and I guess I'm just confused. My teen in a touch older than OP's and does all of the above, as do the kids in our neighbhorhood. The girls tend to hang out on porches or kick soccer balls. The boys tend to walk to the basketball courts.

There's a bubble tea place that is really popular with the pre-driving teen set, and sometimes they walk or bike over there.

I'm wondering if this just a neighborhood/expectation difference. I live in a solidly middle class neighborhood so it is possible the teens are less heavily programmed. The kids have school, and then a sport or another hobby, but they are free a couple days a week and then usually one weekend day. They are good about finding a time when Larla is back from soccer but Larlo hasn't left for orchestra or whatever.

Anyways, maybe I'll regret letting them hang out on the porch swing when the Masters of the Universe above are running the show and my kids are working at McDonalds, but I tend to think some free time is good for them. [/quote]

We live in a middle class neighborhood (think teachers and police officers) and the kids here do hang out in person. They play basketball or get treats at the closest grocery store/ice cream place. They also play online a lot, but definitely do things together at least for a couple of hours on weekends.

I have a teen who does this and a younger tween who has no friends at all (no contact in person or online outside of school). Sorry OP, it’s hard to witness as a parent. 
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