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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's fascinating that when the question is framed differently, we hear so many stories of women's affairs. In all the other cheating posts, it's mostly stories of men cheating. As a woman I kudos the courage of those women who were otherwise stuck in miserable or even abusive marriages. Some stories, like the one who was already separated from her husband, are not even considered cheating IMO.

It's also fascinating that so many wives would immediately assume/accuse those cheating women of sleeping with married men, even though among all the stories of women's affairs in this post, none gives any indication that they were sleeping with married men. Many married women have affairs with single men, just like married men do with single women. [b]It just shows how much insecurity women feel about their spouse cheating[/b]; hence all the anger and judgment towards infidelity. [/quote]

Well said. The bolded part is the key take-away. [b]The real reason some people are so against cheating is they are insecure in their own marriage. [/b]They want an extreme social stigma so that they can treat their spouse like crap and the only option is a divorce which can be ruinous financially and for the kids.[/quote]

Okay, sure. Very secure which is why so many are completely blindsided.  Just a thought: maybe they are against it because it wrecked their world, their kids world and caused significant trauma or destroyed their family when they were kids.  Hey, but what do I know?  [/quote]

I'm sorry if it happened to you or someone you know. Sure it would hurt like hell if you were completely blindsided when you deeply love your spouse and did everything right but he still cheated. But can't you see everyone is not in the same situation? Those women in previous post were talking about themselves (or some other women they know) stuck in miserable or abusive marriage and then had an exit affair. Not every post here is about you. You don't have to project everyone's story onto your husband's affair or your own insecurity. [/quote]

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