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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]God OP.  My husband left me with a 1 YO and a 5 YO.  It was SO hard.  And it still is.  [b]The daycare years are the worst. It's just not affordable.  [/b]

He made it clear he wasn't interested in parenting #2 but I didn't want an abortion which he asked me to have. [b] Abortion is not for me.  I encourage you to think about aborting rather than tying yourself to this man for life.  And condemning your kid to being raised by a single mother.

Or give it up for adoption.[/b]

Or move in with your mom for the first 5 years of the baby's life.

It is almost impossible to BOTH parent and work without a partner.  I don't know how I did it.  Sometimes it amazes me we are all still alive.

I sometimes regret ever having married and ever having children at all.  And I love my kids.  But I chose a rocky road for ALL of us.  Kids deserve better.

[b]But I still wouldn't have that abortion. [/b] [/quote]

PP, you sound like a real piece of... work. You wouldn't have an abortion, but OP should consider it? "Condemning" her kid to be raised by a single mother, so she should put her child up for adoption instead? Are you writing from 1950? You know that the majority of births in this country are to unmarried women, right? We're not all miserable as single parents. Sounds like you were counting on your husband's money to pay for raising your kids. That's what happens when you have a man instead of a plan.

-PP who is a single mom, raised by a single mom, and doesn't feel "condemned" to anything, because I planned for this financially[/quote]

Did you even read what she wrote?  You cannot dismiss her feelings as they are just as valid as yours.  You are lucky you can afford to be a single parent but she could not be.  Many of us cannot be with lower salary jobs, especially in helping professions.  [/quote]
Obviously you can be
Salary has nothing to do with it. There is plenty of assistance.
Many people get by on small incomes.[/quote]

As someone who has worked in the assistance programs, you need a very low salary so often making over $50-60K with one child disqualifies you from assistance.  If they don't have family help for child care its a huge struggle.  You have a very high income and probably never been on assistance.  And, if she got a raise, even .10 she could lose all her benefits and then be in a worse bind.  [/quote]

FFS so you are saying women have to make $30 k a year or $200k

You have no idea how people really live.

You don’t get your nails done (gasp), or get a new car (gasp) or buy the lates clothes (gasp). You buy generic food - it’s totally doable

Some people even move to the burbs

The snobs on this site who picked bad me (yea if your DH doesn’t do 50% of the physical and emotional labor) you aren’t very good at your life choices. [/quote]

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