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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]he said he left. he said he didn't talk to her. he said he "didn't even know she left after a couple days".

so after 2 days of stonewalling and neglect and passive aggressiveness on OP's part, she went to stay with family.

nothing about her being mad. it's not "being mad" to want to talk to an understanding or at least have a talk.

she has nothing to be guilty about.

i guess she should have broke it off immediately when OP happed generally about "never wanting to date people my friends went on a couple dates with." [/quote]

OP here. I wasn’t going to come back on here but then I saw this. I have no idea where you’re getting your “ facts” because I said none of this.

I never once said I left. If you read my replies from 20:26 and 21:36, you will see that I explained what happened and it was none of what you just lied about.

I never once left. I said I slept on the couch. We were cordial but I told her I needed time to process everything before talking. She was mad I wouldn’t talked and was gone when I woke up one morning. She texted me that she was going to stay with her sister until we figure things out.

Did I leave? No? Did I refuse to talk to her? No. We talked but just not about the situation. Did I know she was gone? Now until about an hour later when I woke up. She left at 7am.

I did say in my replies she was mad that I needed time and wouldn’t talk to her right away about it. I said I needed time before I said something I would regret.

I never said I didn’t want to date someone my friend went on dates with. Again, another lie to fit your narrative and act like you’re right. I jokingly said I wouldn’t want to date someone I found out that my friend banged. It was a joke while watching some tv show.

So, instead of making up your own facts to a situation that doesn’t involve you to feel like you somehow know better than other posters, at least get your facts straight. PP was right, you weren’t. [/quote]

DP.  So let me get this straight.  You never told her seriously that you would want to know if she had slept with one of your friends, you just made a joke, so she never actually lied to you when she didn’t share this.  She just kept it to herself because it as history and she didn’t see a need to bring it up.  Your relationship was happy to the point of looking at engagement rings until your friend decided to stir shit by telling you they had slept together.  And then, instead of just talking to her about it like a grown-up, you slut-shamed and then stonewalled her, even though she hadn’t done anything wrong.  She didn’t cheat on you, and she didn’t lie to you.  She chose not to tell you something she believed you would rather not know about.

I don’t blame her for getting fed up and going to her sister’s while you guys see if you can work this out.  Why should she sit around and subject herself to your implicit judgment and punishment because your friend acted like an ass and you won’t talk like an adult?  “Cooling off” is taking a few minutes, maybe a couple of hours.  Not days.  If you need that long to be able to have a rational conversation, you need anger management counseling.[/quote]

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