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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Twin mom here - 12 yo g/g

No, don't ask.  Your kids need to have friendships outside of their sibling relationship.[/quote]

Another twin mom. Your girls are older so I'm wondering how you handle when both children consider someone a friend, but only one gets invited? We have always done separate parties and play dates with no problem, but wondering as they get older how to [b]gently say they don't like you[/b] to the one who is not invited?[/quote]

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But that is not always how invitation decisions are made. This is when it is beneficial to expand their worlds so each has a separate space with some of their own friends.[/quote]

They have separate friends and interest. As I said, they have had plenty of experience with one being invited and not the other. What is different in this situation is the child comes over frequently and plays with both of them. Both twins consider this child a friend. Now only one is being asked on a playdate. I'm trying to navigate a new situation and would appreciate advice other than what you offered because they already have separate space and friends .[/quote]

OP that is hard. The kids are used to playing together and the one not invited is going to be hurt. I wish I had useful advice but I don't other to say, that is going to be hard. Can you come up with a list of friends that your other child might want to have over when his sister is having her playdate? "Let's have one of your friends over and you can play with person X!", try to turn it into an opportunity for something fun? [/quote]

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