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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I am going to tell you secret of having a baby and what the baby wants. Ready???

[b]A happy mother!!!!!!
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I swear to you that your baby wants a happy mom more than anything else on the planet.  So you do what makes sense for YOUR body and YOUR breasts. We are in 2021 and you luckily have so many choices

For the haters I nursed my 2 kids for more than a year each. It was the easy thing for me. If it’s not the easy thing for THIS mom she should make a different choice[/quote]

THIS OP. Seriously, this.

I chose not to breastfeed any of my three children, I did not even try one time. And it was simply because I did not want to. My pregnancies were agonizing and I wanted my body back with fervent desperation at the end and I honestly couldn't imagine breastfeeding. I have no problem with it at all, no feelings at all seeing another woman breastfeed, but the thought of breastfeeding myself was actually like, repellant to me, viscerally.

So I just did not do it.

If I tried, maybe it would have worked, who knows, but formula is not just 'fine' it is great. It is a modern miracle! It means babies survive! It means they thrive where they once could not. It is SO modern 21st century America to have had science give us an absolute miracle that every generation of humans before 1900 would have like, given almost ANYTHING for and for us to reject it as 'meh' because its less 'natural.'

You don't like it, you are unhappy, you may start to resent your baby as a result. So stop. I agree with others that it does sound like this is the peak awful time from what I've heard from friends and so if it was something that you had said was important to YOU I might encourage you to push through it. But this isn't important to you and you don't like it. You don't have to keep doing it. Your baby will thrive and no one can tell which of the 6 year olds were breastfed. Be COVID safe and have some reassurance in the fact that healthy babies are less likely to see severe outcomes and if you were vaccinated you have already passed on some protection. And keep your baby protected as you would during ANY winter season from flu and other seasonal illnesses. Honestly you should be more on guard against RSV than COVID with a newborn. You don't have to do this, even if the only reason is that you don't like it. If any doctor could make a choice between making sure a baby was breastfed or making sure the baby was being cared for by a happy, healthy, calm and engaged mother, they would pick the latter. Being happy and engaged is FAR more important to your infant than breastmilk. [/quote]

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