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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. You guys called it. Nanny said today she wanted to quit because I could not accomodste her change in schedule. I am so mad. I turned down all these other candidates and now I’m back to square 1. [/quote]

I mean...she made it pretty clear this was important to her, and she could likely see that there was nothing really stopping you from accommodating her request. Why would she want to continue working for someone like that if she has other options? I really don't think you have anyone to be mad at but yourself. You took a gamble, thinking you had the power here, and you learned that you did not. Hopefully you'll be able to build a more mutually respectful relationship with the next person you hire. [/quote]

Bullshit.

The nanny accepted the job for certain hours and certain pay. She tried to change the terms almost immediately in a way that made it more inconvenient for her employer. That’s a pretty big red flag. I bet she got another offer that was closer to her house or otherwise easier. Since it was the first week she just quit. This kind of stuff happens. The solution isn’t to become a doormat, it’s to lay out clear expectations from the start. It’s far better to start strict and become more flexible as you build trust than to start flexible and build resentment as boundaries get trampled.
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Call it whatever you want. OP decided to be rigid when she didn't have to be, over a mere half hour. Was it really worth losing her nanny over?

As a former nanny, I can't tell you how many times a parent hired me for a certain schedule only to realize they didn't build in travel time, or their hours shift. And if I was able to, I rolled with it.

OP decided to flex based on power she assumed she had, and it bit her in the ass.[/quote]

This isn’t a case of changed circumstances in an established nanny relationship where people have an investment in maintaining the working relationship and making accommodations.  This was a nanny who agreed to certain working hours and then asked to change them on the spot her first day, asked again the second day, and then quit when she didn’t get her way.  She never intended to work OP’s stated hours, she just said she would to get the job.

If you’re going to be upset with anyone here, be upset with the nanny for poor behavior that reflects poorly on the nannying profession, not the employer who held a reasonable line on the work hours she needed and was upfront about during the hiring process.[/quote]

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