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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t love Esther perel, but in fairness, her work centers around having a good marriage after infidelity if it’s possible. She isn’t trying to justify cheating at all, or blaming the party who didn’t cheat.

It is fair to point out that if, say, one spouse stops showing interest in the other spouse, that might be a factor in why the other would cheat. I think that Perel’s take is that in order for the marriage to get to a good place, the partner who didn’t cheat needs, eventually, to start showing interest in their spouse again.

I find the whole idea repulsive though. Perel says that people who are still willing to work on their marriage after their partner cheats are heroes. Good for them, I could never be that hero. [/quote]

One persons hero is another persons sucker.

[b]Really change cheating to addiction or hitting[/b]. [/quote]

So women that are abused are suckers.  Wow- you are beyond an a-hole.[/quote]

No. People who buy Esther Perel’s BS  are suckers.

Take her philosophy change the word to hit or addiction and you will see his bat sh!t crazy she is.[/quote]

As a betrayed spouse, I am no fan of Esther.  She’s an affair apologist.[/quote]

What was your contribution to your marriage’s failure? We all like to believe we are victims. I was in an abusivo marriage for years. My spouse hit me, verbally abused me, emotionally abused me. I finally realized that I was not a victim but a willing participant. I enabled. I then refuses to participate any longer. I walked out. [/quote]

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