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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Team OP.  So many ways to talk to a teen without grilling them about their college apps.  Some folks on DCUM could stand to work on social skills.  [/quote]

True, there are many other ways to talk to a teen. And I personally never ask about college plans. [b]But I can't stop other people from asking. Like it or not, they will. [/b]So OP's kid needs to figure out an answer because the question is inevitable. [/quote]

NP. True, and she should learn to enforce boundaries.

“I don’t talk about it.”[/quote]

This is one tactic, but that is the most socially awkward way of handling the situation. You could easily deflect the question, or even say nearly the same thing in a more neutral way, then the kid can shift to either something the kid wants to talk about (clubs? movies?  Sports?), or ask the questioner about their college experience o kids if they want.  If an adult keeps bringing up the subject and not taking social cues, a more curt 'I don't talk about it"  might be warranted.  But you don't need to jump  straight to "enforcing  boundaries"  when people are just trying (albeit poorly) to make conversation.[/quote]
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