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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like Carrie on SATC when Aiden takes her to the country!!
HA.
But really: My husband's family owns a rural cabin in a very remote part of PA. There's nothing to do. When we were dating, I went along with it and pretended to be charmed. We lived across the country at the time and I thought, how bad could it be?

Well now we're back in the area and he wants to go there throughout the summer. It causes fights. There is a tiny bathroom without effective plumbing, but the main issue is mold -- there's something in the home that makes me wheeze and break out in hives on my neck and chest whenever I am inside and Nyquil or Benadryl doesn't touch it (or else just makes me sleep). There are no doors for the two small bedrooms and no shades so the light pours in at 5 a.m.

The only alternative to being inside is to spend all my time on a screen porch.

He takes the kids fly-fishing or canoeing, neither of which I do.

My issue is normally I just suck it up for a weekend in the summer but he really gets resentful and wants to go more. Next week, I am launching a massive initiative at work that a promotion depends on.[b] I have spent the past month head down on it working weekends and nights sometimes. I want nothing more to spend a quiet Labor Day hanging with my family. DH is upset and wants to go to the log cabin. [/b]I said please, I just need a quiet weekend to regroup before my big event, can we do small trips close to home, and he's pissed off. Then he said fine I want to go, just stay home alone. 
So basically I spent the weekend alone by myself or go to the cabin where I'll get no sleep due to my allergies.

WWYD[/quote]

Does this mean that he has been more or less solo with the kids evenings and weekends for a month?

This weekend really isn’t about you.  He probably needs to get out of the house and get the kids out of the house.  I’m sorry that you are having to work so much, but it isn’t fair to ask him and the kids to hang around the house all weekend so that they can be available to hang out with you when you aren’t working or resting.  
Go with them or stay at home, but don’t be resentful about it.  You’ve been off working hard, and a quiet weekend at home sounds lovely, but they might be going stir crazy being at home, and another quiet weekend with no plans sounds like torture.  [/quote]

[b]This is an interesting way of looking at it I’m surprised it took nine pages to come up[/b][/quote]

Ha ha ha ha ha, no. It's not surprising because of course he hasn't been solo with the kids evenings and weekends for a month. Come on.[/quote]

I don’t know.  Maybe they have an amazing nanny or family help, but typically if one parent is head down on it at work, then the other parent is holding down the fort at home.  [/quote]

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