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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The initial post made in seem as though OP was previously in a functional relationship that had very recently become fraught. DH, in the initial post sounds disengaged and like he was not prioritizing his wife and might be depressed. He does sound like a twit in that post.

The fact that OP and DH were actually separated until OP found out she was pregnant adds a lot of context. I think he is deliberately making it very clear that he does not want this marriage but is staying because he feels it’s the “right” thing to do.

I don’t think OPs DH is lazy, I think he can’t stand to be around her. If this was the situation from the first post, ultimatums and talking things out might work but DH does not sound like he has any interest in repairing the marriage and desperately wants an excuse to get out. [/quote]

OP here. This makes a lot of sense. I think he does want me around, but he also wants the freedom to do whatever he wants, whenever he wants, and he can't reconcile the two.

Anyway, thanks everyone. I'm working on lining up my ducks, and I have great friends who are very supportive.[/quote]

Good. You are young. Don't waste your life on somebody who is not motivated to be with you or do things with you.[/quote]

And maybe next time don’t get pregnant while you are separated and considering divorce. In your first post I was team OP but now I think you are both behaving ridiculously. [/quote]

I'm not going to be so hasty to judge. I don't think we know OP's age either. Let's say she's 40 and has always wanted a child and had a lot of optimism that DH would work with her to turn things around...I can see it. Would it be less complicated to go the "single mom by choice" route than to have to coparent with a guy like this? Yes, for sure. But it's tough to really get that until you have the baby and do the coparenting. Even so, I would absolutely coparent with a lackluster guy if the alternative was to miss out on being a mom.

To OP I say congrats on your pregnancy, you will be a great mom to that beautiful baby. [/quote]

Thank you :) I'm not quite 40, but this is likely my only chance for a child, unless I use a donor. Which honestly I don't see as a much better alternative, at least this way I'll get occasional babysitting, ha.[/quote]

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