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[quote=Anonymous]Your father worked for the government - no pension?

Your sisters can leave the country and work elsewhere if there are no opportunities for them in the country they are in. They may not want to but that’s the way it goes. They can be angry all they want now. Once they are married they will understand and feel bad for the way they treated you. If they don’t want to work, they can consider marriage.

Don’t argue with them anymore. Send only the amount you can reasonably afford to send. As harsh as it sounds, when you are older, they won’t be there to support you so you need to have some savings to support yourself so don’t continually short change yourself.

Your mom can either go back home to visit relatives or bring her over on a tourist visa for a 6 month stay with you. This will reduce some of their immediate family expenses.

Verify they are telling the truth about what needs to be paid to the landlord. If true, Negotiate with the landlord or find someone in country to do it for you. come up with a pay off amount and your father agrees to leave or he stays and continues to pay and moves to a less expensive and smaller apartment. Oh and yes they could easily be exaggerating and/or just believe they know what will happen based on stories/rumors they have heard but actually have no real clue what the truth is.

No one in the US cares if your family is poor so don’t waste your energy on being embarrassed. Half of everyone’s parents were poor at some point.

There is one option you do have as well - drop the rope - walk away. No longer send money. No longer answer calls. Surprisingly, they will figure things out on their own even if you think they can’t. They can, they just don’t need to, so they don’t. Think about this-  They managed to figure things out well enough to move to another country, find a place to live, go into debt, feed and clothe themselves.

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