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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm pretty sure my husband's half of our wedding guests never got any thank you notes. People who obsess over this (invariably women) never seem to hold men to this standard. Why is that?[/quote] Never? You mean never other than all the people in this thread who had help from their grooms? Read.[/quote] While there are men who write thank you notes, I have never seen anyone hold a man responsible for not writing them. This is a social standard enforced almost entirely by and against women.[/quote] "Enforced"? What the... I have had both male and female cousins, friends, etc., fail to send thank you notes for weddings, graduation gifts, etc. And never once have I ever "enforced" that social nicety by calling them up to ask them about the gift, etc. WTH? Tell me, in great detail, how you have "enforced" this nicety with the people in your life. [/quote] I don't enforce it. I don't care about thank you notes. I give gifts when I want to because it makes me happy to do so for friends and family. I do not demand a handwritten note in return as a quid pro quo. But if you read this thread, there are plenty of people trying to enforce this practice according to their own standards by criticizing those who don't comply or, in some cases, mentioning that they have stopped giving gifts to those who didn't respond with a thank you note.[/quote] Criticizing is not “enforcing,” dum-dum. I criticized Donald Trump every day for four years, and yet he still remained in office. Turns out me calling him a dirtbag didn’t “enforce” his removal from office. People post opinions on this thread. A lot of them are critical, snobby and snarky. That still doesn’t mean they “enforce” jack shyt.[/quote] So you simply don't believe that any enforcement of social norms exists, because such enforcement doesn't involve, like, legal consequences? What an odd view. [/quote] Some people tell me that I shouldn’t work outside the home. Don’t care. Live my life. Some people tell me I shouldn’t be on birth control. Don’t care. Live my life. Some people tell me I should dye my hair. Don’t care. Live my life. Try it. Societal pressures exist, sure. That doesn’t mean DH and I didn’t divide the thank you cards straight down the middle. [/quote]
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