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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Those thank you notes were the band of my existence after our wedding. Maybe it’s not ideal, but I would let it go and assume the bride is doing the best she can at the moment. [/quote] No, she’s doing the least she can. And why is it all on her? Presumably there’s another party to this marriage who is also literate. [b]I find it tragic that this generation finds it so grueling to say thank you.[/b][/quote] +1[/quote] -1. It's not grueling to say thank you. It's grueling to buy stationery, handwrite a bunch of notes (especially after a wedding), buy stamps, and mail them. I don't use the mail for anything else and don't really handwrite anything at this point. I would be happy to write personalized emails, but I strongly dislike physical writing.[/quote] Was it grueling for your guests to buy you a gift, wrap and send it or arrange to have it sent, buy plane tickets and reserve and pay for hotel rooms, and dress up in nice clothing to celebrate your wedding? It is really too much to acknowledge their contribution to your life event in a personal way?[/quote] It's really not grueling to buy a gift - people just do it off the registry. It takes 10 minutes at most. And of course no one is obligated to give a gift, or attend for that matter, if it doesn't work for them. An invitation is not a summons. We attended all of their weddings and other celebrations too - they're our friends and family. You do these things for friends and family because it is fun and joyful to do so, regardless of what you get out of it in return. I think [b]what I find troublesome about attitudes like yours is that you don't actually care about the sentiment of gratitude, it's the specific expression of it according to your terms that you are after.[/b] Why is that? Some people even demand some sort of written thank you after receiving effusive and genuine thanks in person.[/quote] Not so. What I would object to is a mass-printed thank you card with nothing specific relating to my gift and/or to me personally. I'd be fine with a pre-printed thank you card with a single line of handwritten (or typed) text specific to my gift and my joining the couple for their wedding. It is not "grueling" to buy a gift, but it takes effort to do so, just as it takes effort to prepare for, travel to, and attend a wedding. The very least the gift recipient can do is express gratitude in some personal way. PP's statement that it is "grueling" to buy stationery and stamps and to write notes is over the top entitlement at its worst. "I strongly dislike physical writing" - seriously? Does that person never sign anything? Or send a condolence card, a birthday card, nothing? I stand by my words: Is it really too much to acknowledge your guests' contribution to your life event in a personal way? If it is, then maybe you shouldn't invite anyone at all to your wedding - just get married at City Hall and be done with it.[/quote]
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