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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like how autistic people are the problem here. Maybe dont marry someone you barely understand. But I guess if you’re desperate for a ring and have a superficial checklist in mind, these types of poor matches are inevitable. [/quote]

I'd venture to say that autistic people marry people they barely understand more often than the other way around.[/quote]

+1 our therapist said high functioning asd dh was very good at masking to hide the ASD and at the same time gravitated towards me for skillsets he intuitively knows that he lacks: extroverted, organized, etc. This is all happening subconsciously as an act of survival, so it's not like there's any malice behind DH doing this. As the pairing goes on over the years,  the mask falls off and we're left with a high conflict marriage. 
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So I feel tricked but at the same time I'm supposed to now understand DH doesn't mean to trick me.  In fact his ASD doesn't even allow any of that awareness.  This line of thought bothers me because it doesn't allow DH any agency over his actions. And it leaves me left holding the bag to deal with the emotional fallout of our marriage, while DH is supposedly blissfully unaware[/b].[/quote]

Well said. [/quote]

Just proves you don't understand ASD at all.[/quote]

Ok activist :roll: [/quote]

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