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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That isn't a vacation.  Some women enjoy cooking and consider this time bonding but for me this would be a chore and work.  It is ridiculous that you are in the kitchen on a nice sunny day and not enjoying the beach.  I would do it for one meal, say dinner and forget the rest.

If they want to work through their vacation so be it, I would refuse, its sounds exhausting.[/quote]

Baking out in the sun all damn day and talking to you is exhausting. The kitchen is my break, and the person who cooks does not clean. I enjoy my audiobook while I cook, and wine on the deck while you clean.[/quote]

Wow, calm down I am not posting to you but to OP who has said her MIL and SIL are in the kitchen cooking, I never mentioned cleaning however OP has said they clean after as well.  I was thinking that if all three of them were in there together that perhaps MIL and SIL think of it as bonding time and enjoy chatting over cooking together.  I love audiobooks too and beer/spirits on the deck as well.  My point was that other people have different preferences and perhaps the MIL and SIL enjoy this aspect of their holiday however it doesn't sound like OP does.  OP has said she wants to spend some time with her kids outdoors and I agree, I actually enjoy being at the beach and swimming.  It was my opinion that I would join in for one meal and leave the rest because its my vacation as well.

You really need to chill out, its ok that you have a different opinion and enjoy different things.  I guess overall my advice to OP was to find a balance so OP can enjoy her vacation because to me all that cooking would be a chore, I don't mind a little but I also want to be doing other things.  You can have your wine while others clean, great, no one is fighting you on this, just breathe.  [/quote]

Nope, that’s not what you said. What you said—which was insulting to people who choose to spend their time differently than you and OP prefer to—was:

“That isn’t a vacation.” “It is ridiculous that you are in the kitchen on a nice sunny day and not enjoying the beach.” “It sounds exhausting.”

No one is forcing OP or anyone else to cook. No one is being held at gunpoint. If they want to cook and enjoy that, that’s their vacation. If you want to stay out on the beach all day, that’s your vacation.

The first paragraph you wrote negates your backpedaling. [/quote]

Wait I got it because black and white text can be taken literally by some people.  You think its insulting.  Yes I claim it is ridiculous that OP is in the kitchen all day when she herself said she wants to be outdoors and I said it sounds exhausting to do all that cooking and cleaning and then in an hour start again.  Yes for ME it does sound tiring.

Now if you came on here and said that your inlaws want you to be at the beach all day and you want to be trying your new recipe do you know what I would say to you.  I would say "that doesn't sound like a vacation for you.  Its ridiculous they want you running around at the beach all day when you want to be trying your new recipe and sipping an alcoholic beverage while cooking, which yes is relaxing.  I do enjoy that.  I would say its your vacation and you should do what you want and being at a vacation where you are forced into activities that you don't enjoy sounds exhausting.

Now do you see, its not meant to be insulting.  How you interpret it is your business but on my end it was never a judgement on anyone who likes cooking because yes, cooking from scratch and trying new recipes is really popular at the moment, people love it.  I like it in small doses.[/quote]

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