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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I hear you. My family is not like this, but I have friends who are. Honestly, I don’t care who people marry or what the prioritize when they look for a mate. None of my business.

What is my business is when some of these women who married rich on purpose want to lecture me or anyone about feminism. Do what you want ladies, but hitching your wagon to some rich guy so that you don’t have to worry about money is not a feminist choice. It perpetuates a lot of structures that hold women back. Oh, and if that dude is white and you’re white and your kids are white… congrats, you are also helping perpetuate white supremacy. So maybe to e down the Facebook posts about what a devout feminist you are? [/quote]

None of it is your business. Who people marry, their views on feminism…not your business. Nothing about this promotes white supremacy either. Your should really try to become a more intelligent person. [/quote]

1) Feminism is political, and politics are everyone's business. 
2) Anyone who goes around being vocal about their views on feminism should be ready to account for their own choices, but especially wealthy white women. It is so common for rich white laides to be very ra-ra feminist when they want people to be nice to them or they want to claim victimhood.

The person who quote Mikki Kendall upthread is spot on. You can claim you're a feminist all you want, but if your entire lifestyle and the well being of your children relies on your white husband's high income and the cheap labor of women of color, your feminism is nothing but a social media brand.[/quote]
So now white women need to pass some test with you if they simply hold the belief that women and men deserve equal opportunities? Exactly which very specific way do we have to live and move through the world to not have the fault of all that is wrong with America at our feet? [b]And I'm very confused about the "entire lifestyle depends on cheap labor of women of color" comment. Could you expound upon that?[/quote]
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NP here - absolutely. Our kids had a POC nanny and POC preschool teachers and I get weekly cleaning by other POC. My saving grace is that I am POC myself and pay them living wages, because I get it and I'm successful because of them. I cringe when I hear women expecting nannies to work for $20/hour and care for 3 small kids, so the moms can work and play feminists. For starters, I think paying living wages would be a great thing.  
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