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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men would rather focus on 1 task (and the highest priority task at that) and complete it 100% with high quality rather than dilute focus on multiple tasks completing none of them at a satisfactory quality, if at all. [/quote]

Except this is absolutely untrue in my experience. My DH will NEVER choose the highest priority task unless it is the one he enjoys the most or is easiest. Like if the house is a mess, the kids need dinner, the trash is full, and one child is having a meltdown, he will choose that moment to do laundry. And he 100% does it so that if I ask for help with any of the other much more immediate needs, he can say "Oh, I'm folding this laundry now, sorry!"

Also, in most houses, there is simply no point to doing a childcare or household task *perfectly* as opposed to good enough. The kitchen doesn't have to be spotless, but the dishes need to go in the dishwasher. The kids don't need to be dressed in perfectly coordinated outfits, but they need to be sufficiently dressed to leave the house. Having a partner who is like "I will do one thing absolutely perfectly in the time you do 8 things in a somewhat half-assed fashion" is actually a huge problem. It means he does not know how to prioritize and also has perfectionism and process problems. If you want to make doing dishes in some elaborate way that gets them 10% cleaner than the fast way, do it on your own time. It's not an excuse for not helping with the other 40 things that need to be done. You don't get to be a subject matter expert in a family -- everyone has to be something of a generalist because there are simply too many different tasks to be completed.[/quote]

My selfish one trick pony spouse also always picks the things with inanimate object, not kids or adults. Even then it’ll be done half assed. [/quote]

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