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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m completely unable to multitask. I’m a woman.

But a lot of what you’re saying isn’t multitasking - it’s thoroughness. Wake up kid, check pull up, use potty, breakfast, get kid ready to go out the door. That’s all one thing at a time. The one thing that’s multi tasking is cleaning up as you go. I’m bad at that too. So when I hand kid off to other parent or he goes down for a nap, THEN I go back and clean up the dishes from the last meal.

Bottom line: don’t let this become “well, he can’t multitask.” Because then that turns this from “you need to do more” to “change something inate about yourself.” The former is a reasonable ask; the latter is not. If he can’t multitask, then he needs to do the dishes and prep the lunches at another time. YOU do not do either on his days to handle mornings. It’s time for a conversation about this, spelling out exactly what needs to get done as part of the morning shift, stating clearly that you’re not going to do this stuff on his days anymore. Then, you’ve got to let him fail. Yup. It’s going to go badly for probably a week. He hands daughter off to you. You say, “she’s not dressed” and hand her back. If he’s dropping her at school, let him forget lunch a couple times. Let the dishes from breakfast sit out all day. Guess he’ll have to figure that one out when he gets home.

It might take a week or two, but if you stop bailing him out and let natural consequences happen, he’ll learn work arounds. Like you said, none of this is rocket science. [/quote]
And if natural consequences do not work and kids suffer more and kore, get divorced. He’s not husband, father or homeowner material. [/quote]

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