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[quote=Anonymous]Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

You cannot change your husband.  (That's not to say he will never change, only that YOU cannot change HIM.  Only he can change himself.)

You CAN change your own reactions.

Accept that, then decide what you are going to do with this knowledge.

You can buy your present(s) for him, give him a detailed wishlist, agree to forgo the gift exchange, or just stick to the status quo with your newfound acceptance.

I suppose you could also decide that you can't live with a crappy gift-giver, and leave, but I suspect you don't want to do that.  You say you know he is committed to you, but that you do not feel cherished.  Well, HOW do you know he is committed to you?  Does he say or do certain things?  They may not be your idea of romantic, but if they let you know he is, in fact, committed to you, then start to recognize them and cherish those things.

Also, for someone who claims to not be materialistic, you have a pretty narrow idea of an acceptable gift--jewelry.  And be honest--would you REALLY be happy with a $10 pair of tacky Christmas earrings from the CVS clearance bin?[/quote]

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