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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]From your follow up, you might have a shot at saving this marriage — but you need to be prepared to offer up and follow though on big changes.

For example, if you have been so financially successful, can you start working part time while she goes back to school or her career of choice?

Can you change jobs so you have more flexibility to handle decisions about camp, etc?

Would hiring more help actually make her happier?

And LOL that you did all this career stuff just for your family. I’m a wife that has worked and been very successful in my career. If my husband were to say “you would have worked just as hard if you stayed single and been just as important in your career” — he would be absolutely correct. In fact, I would likely have worked harder and been more successful if single.

If your wife wanted to quit working, but now regrets it — I can see why you feel like that isn’t your fault and your career enabled what you thought was a free will decision. But at some point, it wasn’t what she wanted and she felt trapped because you didn’t seem to be willing to pick up the slack. Right or wrong, this is likely how she sees it.[/quote]

Building and maintaining a high level career is demanding and it makes it hard to always face the truth: That doing that is still very different from being an emotionally present and loving partner and parent.  It's not 1955. Most wives and husbands want both, high earners and great, available partners. Whether most of us get that or can Be that is another thing. But the standards are high let's face it. This is why many mothers, even highly educated ones, work part time or less than full time. Because we know intuitively it is very hard to do it all. You may have let the scales tip excessively toward your work. Happens to many of us. Try to realign

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