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At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys.  My daughter is 6, but tall for her age.  When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her.  DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter.  His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard.  I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done?  How would you tell your DD to handle this?

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I hear you. I had the opposite problem. 
I have a very petite 6 year old and a larger older girl around 7-8 basically wanted to "care" and play with my DD in the pool.  
She tried to hold her and touch her while at the pool. I mean, you just met my child and you are trying to pick her up? Of course the other child's mom did not do anything. My DD immediately told her "no, don't do that" and swam away from her. If she would have persisted after that I would have jumped in or told DD to get out to take a "break".

Another time when my DD was little she saw a toy by the side of the pool that no one was playing with and picked it up. After letting her interact with it for a few seconds, I immediatley told her to put it down that it was probably someone else's. Sure enough, right after a parent grabbed it from the ground. I kind of rolled my eyes at the time.

I haven't had that situation but when my DD was younger we attended one of those indoor playspaces. I can't remember the name but the owner's daughter was there and when my DD went up to one of the bars to hold herself up, she basically pushed her out of the way and climbed up herself. She may have made a really mean face too. I don't know. Anyway, back then my instinct was to love on my DD and say "awwww be nice" or something like that. However, I have seen mothers grab and forcefully remove children from playground equipment and yell at stranger's children if they were being rough around little kids. I wish I were brave enough to do that but I'm alwasy fearful that they other parent might be crazy. [/quote]

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