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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could have written this post.  First, you must address her over-active bladder.  My 80 year old mom gets Botox shots (YES - BOTOX!) in her bladder every 5 months.  It is a life-saver.  Your mom does not have enough urine to go every 1.5 hours.  The issue is the muscles in her bladder over-reacting.  Botox is the answer on this Trust.  Find her a good uro-gynocologist.  You - and she - will be so happy once this is addressed.

Second, get her a portable potty and make sure it is securely against the wall.    Watch her use it during the day to make sure she is being careful.  My mom has been using a portable potty next to her bed for 4 years now and she has never fallen from it.

Lastly, calmly remind her that you love her and want to help but that she needs to realize that you are not superwoman and therefore she will not be able to get everything the way "she" wants it.  If you give her everything she wants, she will expect more - which is completely unreasonable.  I assume you otherwise have a life, no?  Maybe a partner?  Kids? Pets? Friends? a job?  Hobbies?  It may take time - and serious frustration - but her attitude needs an adjustment.  You clearly love her.  Do not accept guilt trips.

Best of luck to you!![/quote]

THIS is a helpful post. Not the OP but bless you, PP[/quote]

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