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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,

I was in similar circumstances.  I am in my mid-50, divorced, with two kids, and earning in the low $300K.  I moved into a 2 bedroom apartment after we split because my daughter (who was then a junior in high school at the time) wanted to live with me.

About two months after we split, my friends (neighbors from my former neighborhood) invited me over for dinner.  They are a great couple (very attractive, both come from wealthy families and both have high-paying jobs.)  They have kids the same age as mine, one of whom is severely disabled.

They invited me over because they were worried I was lonely.  After dinner, the husband went to intubate their son (it was his turn that night) and the wife stayed to talk to me and tell me that if I ever needed them I call at any time. I ask her how they could be so giving while dealing with so much, and she told me that they found that giving made them happier.  AT the end of the day, they believe that focusing on what they gave instead of what they had made them happy.

I know others have talked about how considering that others are less fortunate can help a person gain a perspective on what they have instead of what they do not have.  I am not sure that is always true.  I do believe that truly giving (i.e., helping whenever possible) does make you happier.

I lack the strength my friends showed me, and I still sometimes feel like I deserve better. However, I do try to give as often as I can and it does help.[/quote]

Why were in an apartment with a 300k+ salary?!  Do you mean the penthouse?

Ridiculous.[/quote]

No she is struggling is you read her very first post. Then she back peddled to say she earned 200k, not believable. [/quote]

These are not the same person. The OP makes $200K. The low $300K person is a respondent who was telling her story also.[/quote]

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