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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here’s what to do OP, assuming you have a job and can possibly do this on your own:

Go ahead with the ultimatum, recognizing that the purpose of an ultimatum is not to coerce the guy into having a kid. Be clear to him on that. Instead, it is so that YOU can have clarity and knowledge to make a decision to stay or leave.

If he makes it clear that he isn’t interested, go ahead and walk. Get pregnant using a donor. Move into a cheap apartment so that you can cover the daycare expenses and hopefully save up a down payment. Once the kid reaches kindergarten age, that is when you and your kid move into a condo or TH in a reasonably good school district. (This assumes you are in DC or some other area where a SFH is not doable on a single income.) I have friends who are single moms by choice, one and done, and very happy.

If you are able to support yourself and your child then go for it. Being a single mom is WAY easier than coparenting with a man-child or man who does not want to parent. Ask me how I know. 
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No one I know who is a single mom by choice regrets it and I know at least 10. But I know many more women who really regret that they did not have a baby or adopt when they were in their 30s or early 40s.

Men really don’t seem to feel the same absence. At least not American men.[/quote]

My mom is a single mom by choice and I resent her and haven’t spoken to her in 10 years. I honestly think she was selfish to get pregnant with me and I’m childfree by choice. So think carefully if you want to bring a child into this world and raise him or her with less resources. To the PP, I think the women you say regret not having a baby are looking for elder care and are anxious about being alone in old age. Guess what? Having a baby doesn’t mean anyone will care about them in old age. It’s easy to be wistful. [/quote]

Curious what led to you falling out with your mom? did something actually happen once or over time?  Or early on did you decide to just hate that she is a SMBC? [/quote]

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