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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got married at 24. Still happily married 16 years later.

At the time, I remember feeling like an adult. My H is 3.5 years older than me (we met when I was a freshman and he was a senior in college). By the time we married 5 years later, we both had masters degrees, I had a job offer, he had a good paying job, and he had 100k in savings to put down on our first house. This early start in real estate got us on a solid financial path as we climbed the property ladder in DC, so there is that side benefit.

However, it seems today that people mature much slower than they used to and most people are not ready to marry, buy a house, or have kids until at least their early thirties, if not later.[/quote]

I don’t think it has anything do with “ maturing slower”. Many people realize they would rather enjoy their twenties, focus on their career, or wait for the right one. There is nothing wrong with waiting until your thirties to get married, buy a house, or have kids. It has nothing to do with maturity. Some people want to explore their carefree and childfree twenties. [/quote]

I just meant that at the time, I saw myself as an adult and so did the people around me. Social media didn't exist yet so that probably factored in as well. Nowadays, most people still see 24 year olds as kids. Events like the Recession and the Pandemic, in which many young twenty somethings had to move back in with their parents and live in their childhood bedrooms again, have a lot to do with that.

There is nothing wrong with waiting to get married, especially not if you haven't met the right one yet! But if you have, there is nothing wrong with acknowledging it by getting married either. 24 really is adulthood and people like the OP's daughter is old enough to make important decisions on her own now.[/quote]

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