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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s annoying to me to keep seeing these posts from
Women. Why don’t you go back to work and see how it is? You had 6 months off and suddenly you’re ready to throw away your career and put in your resignation. No wonder employers don’t like women. I felt the same with my first, yes it sucks and yes it felt wrong to leave. But I didn’t jump to it’s time to stay home mentality but rather can I do this and see how it is and then decide? I cobbled some childcare for the next few months and guess what? I liked working and my baby wasn’t a baby anymore and I continued my career.

To your original question, of course things will change for the worse, you are not solely financially dependent on your spouse, I GUARANTEE you you’ll have fights about chores, and you’ll feel guilty about asking for help or things to do. I’m fine if you want to pick this course of action, but damn, go back to your job a bit don’t just end it because you spent a few months home with a newborn. [/quote]

Or vice versa.  
Take another six months off and see if you are more comfortable with leaving a toddler, rather than a newborn, and going back to work.  
There is no reason this has to be an all or nothing decision.  [/quote]

OP here. I haven’t made any decision about staying at home. I extended my maternity leave until 6 months, but I might go back at least PT. [/quote]

If you are working in direct patient care and need to keep your credentials, then of course you should go back part time.  The question is: "how part time?"  Do you want to go back 36 hours/wk?  Or do you want to go back 10 hours/month?

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Part time in healthcare can be complicated.  If you need to work 12 hr shifts, and you can't count on your DH to be home at a certain time, you'll likely need 2 nannies.  Having two separate nannies to cover part time hours will be a challenge.  [/quote]

OP here. I don’t work 12 hour shifts now. I work M-F, 8 hour days. I would only take a job where I would work M-F and no more than 8 hours. [/quote]

Such ambition. Can see why he loves you. Lol[/quote]

OP here. No need for snide comments. I worked two jobs while putting myself through nursing school, and worked FT as a nurse working 10-12 hour shifts while I put myself through NP program. I worked 10-12 hour shifts for years until I switched over to my current position. I would not take 12 hour shifts if I could avoid it because I want to be able to see my child everyday and spend time with him. I’m in a place financially where I have the ability to work less. [/quote]

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