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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. I guess I am a bit of a doormat. But trying to talk to my sister even about small things, even putting down small boundaries results in extreme tension. It’s easier to just do whatever she wants. I can either have her in my life by going along or she will stop talking to me again for several years.

The latest thing drama this morning was she wanted to go for a hike to a waterfall. We live in Arizona. It’s 98 degrees here today. I told her that I’m totally game, but it’s the sort of thing we need to plan the night before and we need to be in the car driving before 8 AM (by 10 it’s already in the 90s). She got super defensive and said that because she has 3 kids and I only have 2 that I have no idea how hard that is for them to get out that early.

This isn’t a matter of my preferences around timing-it’s about safety. We have little kids. Her family is unable to get out the door before 11 am but by then it’s too late to do anything out in the desert.

I told her-you can take my car, and use my membership to get into the park, and there’s no bad feelings, but I just cannot go unless we are on the road by 8. And she stormed out and hasn’t spoken to me the rest of the day. She left with her kids and went somewhere. No complaints here!! :)[/quote]

Uh, you don't read as a doormat here.  You read as an instigator.  Interesting.  The more you post the more it sounds like your sister isn't really the problem.[/quote]

Op here. Instigating how? [/quote]DP. Posting from Phoenix. Given that yesterday it didn't break 89 degrees until 1:30 it is highly unlikely that you or your children would have been in any danger if you went hiking at 11 am. Humidity was less than 10% all day. You do seem to be drawing lines in the sand that are unnecessary. [/quote]

Op here. Not sure what to tell you. We aren’t in Phoenix, we are quite a bit south of you. It was 95 by noon, so leaving for a hike at 11 doesn’t work. We have 5 kids under 6 between us, and the hike doesn’t have shade. [/quote]

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