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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op and the AP are morally bankrupt and without good judgement or character. It doesn’t matter what OP and the AP think of each other. They hold each other in high regard because no one else does. The children won’t remember anything except the cheating. [/quote]

Can she ever be forgiven for bad judgement? For her affair? Can her ex husband move on or is she permanently, forever “morally bankrupt” from his pov? What if she is objectively good in many other ways? 
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Forever a sh@t person.  This was a marriage (2 marriages!) with kids not a fleeting high school romance.

She’d be a POS in my eyes forever if I were her SIL or exH.[/quote]

:shock:   I suspect that people like this don’t cheat but are horrible in equally or more problematic ways. It’s almost like being faithful is their one virtue so they raise to the highest virtue.  Guaranteed that some “forever sh@t people” have been of great service and value to you in life. Guarantee that you have been a great source of pain to some people, or will be before your die.

That said, I don’t know why OP is struggling with the very basic idea that the ex doesn’t want to hang out with a friend who slept with his wife. OP, if someone stole 500k from you, you would never ever want to hang out with them. It’s like that![/quote]

People that are manipulative liars and morally corrupt definitely lie in other facets of their lives too.  This type of behavior isn’t confined to just cheating.  It is bad character.  [/quote].

Sometimes. But also super judgmental people are often deflecting from their own moral failings in other areas. When I hear this extremely harsh language directed at spouses who have cheated specifically, it really makes me wonder about the other areas of the life of the person who is being so extreme. From a social point of view, I would prefer the person with the Nobel peace prize who cheated on his wife, than some person living there normal, selfish life or worse, who hasn’t.

Many of the older men in my family have cheated, and I suspect some of the women. I would not write them off entirely for what went on in their marriages. Yet I don’t think I could forgive my husband for sleeping with my friend. And I would never want to hang out with my friend who slept with my husband. [/quote]

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