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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is stigma against young mothers. There is stigma against older mothers. There is stigma against working moms. There is stigma against SAHMs. There is stigma against women who chose not to become a mother. There is stigma against women who struggle to become moms (though weirdly it’s started to feel like this is the one woman we’re ok with because she wants to be a mom but hasn’t achieved it — we feel sorry for her but don’t hate her, lucky her).

So often these conversations wind up falling apart as women argue over their choices and options and how they are treated by other women... there is no way to resolve it among ourselves. Women are set up to compete with each other and them criticized when we do.

It’s misogyny. All of it. And the best thing we as women could do is simply support and defend each other against it, rather than seizing an opportunity to position ourselves as “one of the good women who made the right choices.” You see, there are no right choices. Half the time, what is treated as choice is not.

I love young moms and old moms and women who are not moms and working women and trans women and tired women and happy women and all the women. You are all doing great. Let’s make sure we all have access to healthcare (including abortions and birth control), access to economic independence, and freedom from harassment and assault. Everything else is immaterial.[/quote]

Brilliant I love this. I hope this writer is in a position to share these comments from the mountain tops- a health care provider, an advocate, a teacher? Who are you?!! This is simply wonderful. More of this type of discourse will help all women and their loved ones achieve what they want for their own respective lives. [/quote]

That is nice of you to say, thank you. I'm glad this is resonating with people because it's how I really feel. Sadly, I don't have many opportunities to sing this from the mountain tops -- I'm just a harried mom trying desperately to make a living and do right by my kid. But I do try to support the women in my life when I can, and I try to teach my daughter to see the systems of oppression and know she doesn't have to be a part of them. Doing my best in my little corner of the world.[/quote]

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