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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are extremely defensive. I'm not one to push for therapy but I think it would help you because you seem to have some very deep-seated anger. Here is the key comment you made which makes me think you need professional help:

"3. Additionally, I've been more than vocal about my own mother's lack of choices in the 1950s, which, in my opinion, would have resulted in her never having kids."

Your statement about your mother might never have had kids, and your current feelings about being a mother and your own child are obviously intertwined.

You cannot feel better unless you deal with the fundamental issue.  So do that first. 
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Meant to add that if you've been vocal about your mother's lack of choices to your own child, then it is entirely possible they may have interpreted this as YOUR feeling, too. Kids pick up on things like that and process it with a child's mindset.  "Gee, my mom says her mother didn't really want kids. I wonder if my mom wanted me? Maybe not. Maybe I better not have kids either."[/quote]

Omg..this was the funniest one  here... but it has competition with all the usual suspects.  Some of these are DCUM typical, especially the one that has issues with her own mother and transfers it.

:lol:

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There is validity in this comment and it shouldn't be dismissed with ridicule. OP cannot move past this element and expectation of life (as a mother) if she doesn't understand what has affected her in the past, which includes her relationship with her own mother.  [/quote]

Naah- you took this boat to crazy town.  You should  have accurately read responses  carefully, before  lopping off into this assumption.  You didn't read anything here and then ran with it. 
 Worth a belly laugh,  though! There's always that  one or two. [/quote]

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