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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's is what the women partners told me before I became a partner: you can't be both. If you want to stay in the practice and succeed, delegate, delegate, delegate, both at home and at work, but mostly at home. You need back up plans for your back up plans. Some had various combinations of the following: live in parents, nannies, au pairs, SAH or flexible spouses, always full child care coverage options (not always needed, but always available) from 7-10 pm, plus weekends; cleaners; laundry service; food delivery, meal prep (several had home chefs or full service housekeeping); tutors; sometimes drivers for the kids.[/quote]

I would have walked out the door right then and there.

When are you delusional women going to realize that you are being asked to "delegate out" the very fabric of your lives?[/quote]

Truly devastated that "cleaners; laundry service; food delivery, meal prep" and lawn service are not the fabric of my life. [/quote]

What amount of time with your children is the fabric of your life?[/quote]

Honestly? Only 1-2 hours a day are “fabric” quality and the rest (cleaning, yardwork, grocery store) I would very gladly do without :)[/quote]

Often I have pretty important interactions with my kids during cleaning, yard work, and grocery time.  I’m not saying that you can’t raise great kids and have a great job (my mom did it! Lol) but do we have to pretend that people spending 1-2 hours with their kids are spending as much time as someone who is basically around for their kids all the time?  Yes, quality time is more important but you HAVE made a trade off and that trade off was at the expense of your kids.  I say that as someone whose mother was a physician and who is a feminist.  Men SHOULD be picking up the slack here but based on this board they are not.  I have a lot of memories of being with my mom in the yard when she did have a chance to do yard work.  It was fun!  And I have a lifelong love of plants and gardening as a result.  Things like that.[/quote]

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