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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m just curious how others feel and would handle out of state, family weddings where your child isn’t invited.  I would like to go, we have a small family and it’s my only cousin but [b]I think it’s rude to not invite our daughter[/b] since, in my opinion, weddings are about celebrating with family and friends (including kids!).  My parents will be at the wedding and my husbands family lives abroad so they are unable to help.... most likely my husband will be skipping the festivities, which makes me sad.  Again, just curious how people would react - it’s making me feel sad but I don’t want to cause hurt feelings by not attending.[/quote]

And someone else will think it is rude that they weren’t invited at all because the bride and groom had to invite their cousin’s seven year old (to whom I’m sure they’re very close  :roll: ...) during a time with COVID numbers restrictions.  Which friend or  family member who actually knows the couple do you feel like your daughter should replace?

Someone else will think it’s rude that an evening wedding reception is full of overtired children, running around screaming while they try to have a conversation with a family member they haven’t seen in a year.

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By this logic, no one should have a +1.  
Maybe the OP’s daughter could replace another cousin’s newest girlfriend?

And 7 year old girls don’t run around and scream any more often than anyone else.  17 year old girls might if you get a couple of them together, but 7 year olds don’t.  [/quote]

It’s COVID, plenty of people won’t be getting a +1.  “Another cousins newest girlfriend” also would potentially be vaccinated.

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Stop.  
We all know that it isn’t about covid.  There were plenty of child-free weddings before covid.  And it isn’t about kids running around screaming or who the couple knows or doesn’t know.  
These are young people hosting a huge formal party costing thousands of dollars.  They want it to be perfect, and they want to control every part of it that they possibly can.  Kids are unpredictable, and it’s socially acceptable to exclude them, so they do.  That’s it.  
Stop pretending that there is some kind of logical reason.  It comes off as false.  This is an emotional decision based on fear and anxiety.  You can’t blame the couple for feeling like they want to control everything they can about something so important.  At the same time, you can’t blame parents for being upset.  It’s always annoying to have to inconvenience yourself because of someone else’s anxiety.  
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