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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It might be that his wife's family likes SPENDING TIME TOGETHER, whereas your focus seems to be having your dad TAKE YOU on a vacation.

Do you want to go on a vacation and spend time with your dad AND his wife?[/quote]

No, it isn't that at all. My dad has never taken us on vacation. When my siblings and I were little (before my parents divorced), our grandparents used to take us on vacations together as a family and those were good memories. My siblings and I like spending time with my dad, but it's hard when his wife is around. She sours everything.[/quote]

OP...please provide specific examples of what exactly your stepmom does to sour anything. You sound like you just don't like her.[/quote]

Okay, well, growing up when it was my weekend to come over to my dad's, she would have tantrums and slam things around. She didn't like me going to the pantry to get even a bowl of cereal. Even if I was as careful as possible, she hated having anymore dishes in the dishwasher and acted like I would be making a mess. I was a clean kid and kind of OCD.

She would gossip to her friends about me (one told me) when I was a teenager. She said that she found my hair in the bathroom shower after I left one weekend. I was 16.

I was not allowed to have friends over to my dad's house growing up.

She would act angry and pissed off for no reason. She is an alcoholic.

When my sister became pregnant with her first child at 37, she took her up to the spare room to show her all the things she bought for her own daughter's second kid and didn't get my sister anything.

When my grandparents were living, they were never invited to my dad's home because my stepmom didn't want them over but she had all of her family over.

When my dad was at work one day when I was 18 and staying at my dad's for 2 weeks, she made me pack all my things and leave because she was mad that I was staying there and didn't want me there. I have always been polite to her. To be honest, I'm afraid of her.[/quote]

Also - to add, my SIL and my sister also feel uncomfortable around her. When my sister has stayed there, she also feels like has to "camp out" and steer clear of my dad's wife because she gets angry about little spills or crumbs on the countertop. She is literally peeking around corners to try to not go down to the kitchen when my dad's wife is down there because she's a neat freak and doesn't like anyone touching ANYTHING in the kitchen. We clean up after ourselves!

When we go over for Christmas, she says weird stuff to the kids (who are just being kids). My nephew was riding his little toy car around (he was almost 2) and almost rode it into the bathroom and she scolded him. Um, why not just shut the door? He's a baby.[/quote]

2 years old is a toddler, not a baby. Your dad’s wife just doesn’t like messes or children causing trouble. That’s normal. The fact that your nephew was able to ride his toy car is pretty generous. What if he dented a fridge? [/quote]
Hi Stepmom![/quote]

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