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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please don't do it, please walk away with the memories and with love.

I am 15 years into a 25 year age gap marriage that started when I was 29. Please please please don't do it. I didn't marry for money, it was (and is) for love, genuinely. But two kids in and Im 45 and he's almost 70. I promise you, it isn't worth it. It will hurt if you love him, I still love my husband very much and he is young for his age, works in a busy job, involved with kids, plays tennis, but the chasm is getting bigger by the year. 
You will be okay without him. You will. [/quote]

Seriously, you sound like a b*** talking about your husband like that. I’m also in an 25+ age gap marriage myself but I’m an old soul and love being home. I am childfree by choice and DH is retired. He is still very active and we love our life together. I only hope that he lives to at least a hundred and when people ask what’s his secret, he’ll say “ My wife” 😁[/quote]

what did ^PP say that makes her sound like a b***. She said she still loves her DH, and he's fit and very involved. What about that makes OP sound like a b***?
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I don’t know... sometimes we react the most harshly to things we are not ready yet to face or see in ourselves. Their situations, despite the age gap being a similarity, are actually quite different though. One marriage involves kids and another marriage doesn’t. That has a big impact on the marriage. [/quote]

I'm the harsh PP. My bad; the post just reeked of ingratitude. The husband sounds great, she built a life and family with this man, and to turn around and say "it isn't worth it" is really mean...I would say the same even if the genders were reversed. If you can find a good man, no matter how old he is, count your blessings. So many people I know have many issues such as alcoholism, emotional spending/eating, mental health issues...someday life will end for everyone so just maximize your quality of life with a good-quality person. In OP's case, I think her fiance is strange for wanting to knock her up first without getting married but maybe he's another Elon Musk, who knows?[/quote]
I hate it when people say, "Oh, you should be thankful.. your situation could be so much worse".

Yea, it could be, but it's not, and the ^^PP is just stating that there are huge drawbacks to the situation.  She doesn't sound like she's about to leave her old DH. If she did, then that would make her a b1tch.

The PP has first hand experience of what this scenario is like.  Why not share it.

It's like if a single mom said something like.. "parenting is really hard, so don't get pregnant unless you are absolutely sure your marriage is strong and your DH will be a good dad. It's not worth having kids if your marriage sucks".

Nothing wrong with saying that, either.[/quote]

That’s the thing. The PP’s situation isn’t bad at all. The guy is in good health, engaged dad, works hard...she’s just ungrateful. [/quote]

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