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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And I can't help but root against the first team.   [/quote]

That's sad.[/quote]

No it isn't. Screw the A team that didn't want the B team player. Do you think Jordan rooted for the varsity HS team when he didn't make it? No, he hoped they failed to drive home the mistake he felt they made by playing him on JV.

And no bench player is rooting for the success of the starter either. They are always hoping that they fail so that they get their opportunity. Eff the starters, eff the A team has to be how a player looks at it. Sorry if it hurts your feelings but there are many kids rooting for your kids failure. [/quote]

I played many different sports when I was a kid. On some teams, I was a starter; on others I rarely played, but enjoyed being part of the team nonetheless. I never rooted against the success of my teammates.

It wasn't a mistake to put your kid on the B team. You're clearly a B-team parent as well.[/quote]

If you aren't rooting for failure in order to get an opportunity then you are not driven. Opportunity comes both through ones own hard work and the opportunity presented by the failure of another. If you accept that you are a sub or a B team player then you are one.

Players who want to be on the A team or be a starter view their teammates as the competition anything less then you are accepting being a role player. [/quote]

This is B team mentality right here. If you were A-team material, you'd be angling how to make yourself better and indispensable to A-team. You'd be working on skills, training and putting in the work. IF the only way you succeed is through someone else's failure, you were never good enough to begin with. [/quote]

This is A team protective mentality right here. A team parents want submissive subs and B team players. Eff you and eff your kid. [/quote]

HA! You were clearly not meant for team sports. And I mean this will all honesty, I feel terrible or your child. S/he likely did nothing to deserve you. [/quote]

There are only so many starting spots. Fight like hell to get one. You might be better suited for girls scouts.[/quote]

So I think you missed the part where I said that my DC was B team for 2 years. DC got moved up to A and has remained for the past few years....by doing exactly the things that I mentioned above. We had a ton of experience with the B team parents who constantly thought there was some sort of conspiracy against their kids when really it was either attitude or lack of skill which kept them on the bottom flight. Coaches talk a lot about the difficult families. Keep that in mind.

But keep flinging poo. It'll take you far. [/quote]

Not flinging poo, but I also don't see the need to view the A team or the starters as anything more than competition. Sorry if you want kids to just cheerlead for your kid. [/quote]

You have (again) missed the point. It's not about you. It's about your kid and what s/he can do to better him/herself. It's also about the fun athletic experience for your kid. If you remove yourself from the equation, your kid will thank you for it. Right now, you're making his/her experience really miserable and likely precluding any upward mobility.

Who knows? Your kid could actually be &lt;&lt;friendly&gt;&gt; with the other kids and it could be a good experience for DC? But who am I kidding? It's all about making everyone as miserable as possible. [/quote]

This is what threatened parents say when they want the subs to accept their role. They believe challenging the status quo would upset the delicate balance of team chemistry and morale.

Being friendly with and wanting to take their spot are mutually exclusive. For the starter to use "friendship" as a way to manipulate and demotivate the teammate in the name of "friendship" is another technique used to protect ones status quo. We wouldn't want the sub to feel guilty by outplaying their friend now would we?[/quote]

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