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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would find it very annoying if someone 'advised' me how to play with my kid, unless I had asked for advice and ideas. You have a great game in mind? Feel free to engage and play with my child yourself.

Also, I don't like the people who shove an endless stream of gifts on you at every possible occasion, with the expectation that we should praise them for their 'generosity' and 'thoughtfulness' in return. [/quote]

+1  Added to this I think charm bracelets are the strangest, tackiest thing on earth and if someone thoughtfully selected me a charm I would be irritated that I had to keep a piece of clutter around.

It's great that you love your nephew and have experience with kids but you're not presenting yourself as a doting aunt, you're presenting yourself as an expert on childcare that she needs to learn from and appreciate.  The reason she told you that's the first thing that comes up on Google is because you're implying she hasn't thought about ways to make travel easier or plan ahead for a trip with her kid.  If your brother asks for advice, give it.  But chill out with your "expert advice," it's condescending.

You say you love and admire her, but your insertion of "surprise pregnancy" for no reason and in a way that adds nothing to the OP tells otherwise.[/quote]

I like charm bracelets but they are personal. A lot of people are not in to them. Op is trying to force a level of intimicy that sil doesn't want. I suspect op doesn't understand boundaries. [/quote]

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