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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My @ss would be moving to the west coast.[/quote]

This.  I find it odd that empty nesters (especially those with grandkids) don't follow their kids when all the kids are in one location.  If the kids are scattered or if one lives close to the original home, then it makes sense.  But all of them a five hour flight away?

My folks are in CA and all their children and grandchildren are on the east coast.  They can well afford to move.  It's fine that they don't want to, they get to make that choice ... but I had to tell my mom to stop complaining about how she never sees her grandkids because it's very much within her control. I know a ton of people whose parents moved out here to be near grandkids. [/quote]

My MIL is this way. She complains constantly about not seeing her only grandchild more often, but she lives in the tiny town where my DH grew up (and where she grew up) that has no airport and is 7 hour drive from us and a 2 hour drive from the nearest airport. She is long since retired, has a pension, and owns her home outright. I've even suggested that we could buy a larger home and she could live with us if that would make more sense. She also complains about the weather there all the time and says it's too cold for her. But she is too set in her ways and afraid of change.

I just don't get it. You get one life. If you want to see your family more, if what you value is your relationship with your grandchild, then make choices that reflect that. I do not understand people who have the means and opportunity to get exactly what they want and just keep choosing something else. A mystery.[/quote]
She has her friends, clubs, church, etc. where she lives. Are you going to duplicate that?
Moving to a new area for older people is very hard. They have to get to know a new area. They easily get lost, so even a trip to the grocery store can be difficult. They would have to find a new doctor. New church. New everything. That’s a lot to ask from someone just so they can see grandkids more often. [/quote]

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